Don't you sometimes wonder why it is so necessary for us to have a 'life changing' moment? I mean truly so many of the extraordinary people we know, hear about, or strive to follow have had just that; or something they were able to classify within their psyche as just that. Now I have yet to investigate or explore what the physiological and/or biochemical elements or process is that creates such fintie change for an individual who has experienced this and built upon it. Though I am certain such facts exist on the matter and I am sure they are fascinating.
We know that many great organizations (for lack of a better word) know all about creating the environments that illicit such dramatic and/or finite change within a human being: the military or police and fire training for example.
Recently I have found myself without a job, not for anything I did they say but just a lack of business. Thats on me to a certain extent, if I was irreplaceable or more importantly invaluable they would find a place for me, they would negotiate with me to try and keep me. I know that this is true because their are other people there still kicking around! It is not a massive company but a very productive one that has had a successful history of building business.
They say with anything that you have to own it - a talented sports journalist and talk show icon (Jim Rome) once spoke the words: "if you don't ever own it, completely, how is it you are ever going to get over it? You won't, it won't happen" He was speaking about some superstar athlete that continued to languish in uncertainty after a scandal of some sort.
He was right, it doesn't matter what it is, if it directly involves you or affects you, then you must own it or it will own you. 'IT' could be life, society, failure, a person, a challenge, an obstacle, an addiction, a goal. AS with this I know a lot about what I do but I wasn't pushing myself to change or improve or engage powers/factors that affected my productivity. Looking around me surprisingly the same was true about much of my life and those who look up to me as well as a husband, father, coach, mentor!
So I don't know if this has been life changing, it has certainly been revealing, BUT I still find myself scrambling to cover disappointments, failing, or weaknesses up rather than deal with them, take them on, own them, conquer them. It hasn't been life changing, and in a way that tells me something about me, I am worried about the money but not obsessed by the need to replace it! But I need to respect its significance in my life and that of those I am responsible for and to.
So pieces need to be realigned, the foundation re-established, and the support structure fortified so that peace and happiness can be sustained within. Resisting the urge to try and expand the building before everything is structurally in place to sustain such growth. Truthfully though if I don't find that 'will' to change to allow my own effect, I can be certain that this is how people end up living out of a box down by the river.
Tuesday, April 27, 2010
Monday, April 12, 2010
the Tiger that has Society by the Tail
You know one of the things that has transpired while I failed to exercise the written application of my cognitive mind is the tragedy that was/is Tiger and Elin Woods, and family. Now well into their recovery it can be acknowledged as a fantastic fracturing of western societies' obsessively intruding nature. I don't think that Tiger Woods could have handled this whole matter any better than he has and frankly so too has his wife.
With the exception of only a few of the women he infidelled with, most others also kept their business, their business. Which is admirable really, have we heard the last of this, them, and those already looking to get paid via their hips? No.
Still they, and many of us, have probably gotten past the worst of it - that is heard as much as we want to hear. Tiger was not a victim. He waived the right to future trust from his loved owns, and he lost some sponsors and he squandered some peoples' respect and opened the eyes of his fan base... rather had shattered the rose coloured glasses that portrayed him standing high atop Mt. Rushmore with a golf club clenched in a triumphant fist above his head and the Stars n Stripes draped around his shoulders flapping in the metaphorical wind of all those nations round the world who question the supremacy of the U.S. of A.
Considering how it all happened, he owned it. Tiger owned every bit of it, he didn't sprint to the camera's and microphones like many would have liked him to, he didn't hide either or have someone else speak on his families behalf. (yes I know he had someone release a statement but only as an indication that he would be available once he faced the real victims, his family)
So from that fateful 911 call to his first unscripted public appearance at 'The Masters' he comes out looking to most intelligent American men and women as the model example of how to take the high road. He sinned against his wife, his family, his marriage, those who partnered with him in business and those he choose to make 'partner' with. He in no way intently offended the American people or the game of golf - as all those so pompous to tell you he did would like you to believe.
Within the game of golf, as within the 300 million individual lives that comprise America, there are many a sad or desperate or simple weakness that transpired into a failing of judgement and self. Many I am sure becoming a pattern of failings.
Truly I tell you, many political, sports and entertainment icons have failed to understand the saying:
"if you aren't willing to take the high road, then be prepared to get dragged through the mud" -CAB
If you don't come out and own that which is true of yourself in matters of infidelity, fraud, or terror. Own it with a sincere repentant nature and make your efforts to reconcile, repay and/or overcome your failings obvious to the public that gave you the opulent life you so enjoyed. Tiger has done so and acknowledge his followers right up front with even his scripted apologies.
We need to be reminded of course that those associated with the wrong doings of the naughty kitty can't be expected to just go away. Though the minute they trade their so called heartbreak or anguish for financial gain their cries of 'victimisation' are forever hollow.
As for us, his fans we can now just sit back and make our choose as to what we will become a fan of the human, athlete and entertainer or the cheat and tabloid head-liner.
With the exception of only a few of the women he infidelled with, most others also kept their business, their business. Which is admirable really, have we heard the last of this, them, and those already looking to get paid via their hips? No.
Still they, and many of us, have probably gotten past the worst of it - that is heard as much as we want to hear. Tiger was not a victim. He waived the right to future trust from his loved owns, and he lost some sponsors and he squandered some peoples' respect and opened the eyes of his fan base... rather had shattered the rose coloured glasses that portrayed him standing high atop Mt. Rushmore with a golf club clenched in a triumphant fist above his head and the Stars n Stripes draped around his shoulders flapping in the metaphorical wind of all those nations round the world who question the supremacy of the U.S. of A.
Considering how it all happened, he owned it. Tiger owned every bit of it, he didn't sprint to the camera's and microphones like many would have liked him to, he didn't hide either or have someone else speak on his families behalf. (yes I know he had someone release a statement but only as an indication that he would be available once he faced the real victims, his family)
So from that fateful 911 call to his first unscripted public appearance at 'The Masters' he comes out looking to most intelligent American men and women as the model example of how to take the high road. He sinned against his wife, his family, his marriage, those who partnered with him in business and those he choose to make 'partner' with. He in no way intently offended the American people or the game of golf - as all those so pompous to tell you he did would like you to believe.
Within the game of golf, as within the 300 million individual lives that comprise America, there are many a sad or desperate or simple weakness that transpired into a failing of judgement and self. Many I am sure becoming a pattern of failings.
Truly I tell you, many political, sports and entertainment icons have failed to understand the saying:
"if you aren't willing to take the high road, then be prepared to get dragged through the mud" -CAB
If you don't come out and own that which is true of yourself in matters of infidelity, fraud, or terror. Own it with a sincere repentant nature and make your efforts to reconcile, repay and/or overcome your failings obvious to the public that gave you the opulent life you so enjoyed. Tiger has done so and acknowledge his followers right up front with even his scripted apologies.
We need to be reminded of course that those associated with the wrong doings of the naughty kitty can't be expected to just go away. Though the minute they trade their so called heartbreak or anguish for financial gain their cries of 'victimisation' are forever hollow.
As for us, his fans we can now just sit back and make our choose as to what we will become a fan of the human, athlete and entertainer or the cheat and tabloid head-liner.
Monday, April 5, 2010
I'm not dead
I want to use this medium, I want to exercise my voice, my mind in this format, channel some creativity. I have neglected this blog and so much has happened in my life that could contribute to the stimulation and peace to be gained from these social mediums. So why not
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