Laziness

someone i greatly admire and respect, while secretly crushing over, has written recently about the stupidity of men, and even better how to overcome that stupidity. which has caused an epiphany for me - i am really lazy, so lazy that i don't get to have the joy and sex i often enjoyed with my wife because well, i am lazy.

it is so sad truly, i mean i often laughed over the age old jokes about how women were always tired or they have a headache... blah, blah. but really we were joking cause we are lazy. men we are lazy, needy, and not the least bit self-sufficient (even if we are taking care of it ourselves)

what women were saying for centuries wasn't that they didn't have the energy, but rather 'you' (meaning us, we, men, partner) aren't worth the energy! You give me no reason to want to expend the energy, you invest no energy that would justify a reciprocation.

sadly what we learn from her information that we never ever thought about, was that they aren't even always looking for physical energy. just spiritual, moral, and verbal acknowledgements. i mean we wonder why some old guy has a happy sex life, or some chubby guy has this great sex life - its cause he is making an investment into her sense of worth. Yes of course physically he likely is putting in some energy as well but never as much as her really. and besides what man doesn't just love having his head between his womens thighs (ok maybe I am alone on that one) - but if i do love that then what am i waiting for. men if you have something you love doing to your women, what are you waiting for. it probably would take you less energy to get her off than it takes you to get you off.

it shouldn't be an epiphany at my age, but yet it is. i could spend more time having sex and less time wishing i was having it. more time having fun and seeing my girl with a smile on her face than trying to make up for her lack of happiness and satisfaction not just in me but in herself.